Any bereavement can be upsetting, but bereavement due to suicide can cause particular distress.

Are you bereaved?

Greater Manchester Suicide Bereavement Information Service

A confidential information service for people bereaved or affected by suicide. The impact of bereavement through suicide is devastating – for family – for friends – for the community. 

The Suicide Bereavement Information Service has been set up to help answer your questions – whether it is seeking advice on immediate issues that need addressing or making you aware of ongoing support services.


Please contact:

0161 212 4919

Alternatively you may contact us via email by clicking HERE


Our telephone line is open Monday to Friday 10am – 4pm excluding Bank holiday.

This confidential service is for people living in:

Bolton – Bury – Manchester – Oldham – Rochdale – Salford – Stockport – Tameside – Trafford – Wigan

What you might be feeling

You may feel shock – suicide is often unexpected and it may feel very difficult to believe what has happened.


You may feel very angry – angry with the person who has died, angry with yourself because you didn’t act differently or prevent this, angry with other people, feeling that someone else is to blame.


People often feel guilty – believing that they could or should have done something to prevent the person’s death. You may spend a lot of time thinking, ‘if only…’

If the person who has died had been ill or depressed for some time, you may feel relieved that they are no longer suffering and that the stress you may have lived under is over. These feelings can also make us feel guilty and are hard to acknowledge – but they are a natural and understandable reaction.


Stigma around suicide – because you feel other people are looking at you, branding you as a bad parent or partner, for example – or because there is still stigma attached to suicide.


You may feel anxious about other friends and family members, worried about the consequences for others and worried about how you will cope.


Feeling sad is perfectly natural, but if the pain feels more constant, it may be helpful to speak to your doctor.

The death of another person by suicide can be traumatic. If you discovered the body or witnessed the death you may find yourself experiencing recurring nightmares or flashbacks. You may even be imagining what happened. Flashbacks are very distressing and can be symptoms of post-traumatic stress. If this is happening, speak to your doctor who will be able to help with this, perhaps with medication or psychological therapy.


It can help to know that you are not alone. The Health Talk website has a film library showing 40 people from across the country talking about their experience of being bereaved by suicide. Their stories can help you feel less isolated and show you how other people have responded to their bereavement.


 

Helping you recover

At first, and for some time after the death, you may not even be able to think about the way forward because all of your efforts will go into surviving and dealing with the emotional challenges and practical problems it has brought. Losing a loved one always takes a long time to come to terms with but bereavement by suicide is known to involve a particularly difficult and lengthy period of grieving.

People may expect that you will recover within months; the truth is that you may never recover completely but you will adapt to a changed life over time. Be prepared for this, however don’t think that it means you will always feel the pain so keenly. You may not be able to imagine how the pain will lessen but over time the gaps in between the moments of thinking about your loss gradually get bigger and bigger. Things will never be the same as before but you will find a “new normal”.

It’s really important to look after your own wellbeing – the Five Ways to Wellbeing discusses five key things we need in our lives to have a sense of wellbeing – and gives tips on how to improve your wellbeing.

The Living Life to the Full course provides helpful and practical tips for feeling better and managing emotions.

We are proud members of the Support After Suicide Partnership (SASP). We collaboratively work within the SASP network of organisations and charities who strive to provide appropriate and timely support to those bereaved by suicide.

The Military Community

At the time of such a sudden and traumatic loss, you will have many unanswered questions. The military community in Greater Manchester is ready to support you and all those bereaved with practical support when you need it most.

There is a strong network of people who can help you with any question or issue you might have and if they don’t know they answer themselves, they will know someone who does.

 

LGBT Foundation

LGBT Foundation provide a wide range of support services to lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people.
Whatever your needs, we are here to support you.

Help is available for people bereaved by suicide in Greater Manchester.

NATIONAL RESOURCES
Services available nationally to help and support you.